But it’s not a long-term strategy for coping with hurt. They are unaware they are hurting other people. It happens all the time. But for the majority of us, we hurt others because we’re in pain. Notice if how you treat yourself is similar to how the people who hurt you in the past treated you. Because of how I was hurt growing up, I now do work that reduces suffering and helps people find peace. It’s even easier to allow ourselves to become enraged when we hurt another person and they react negatively. For you it’s as if the world is crashing down, and all you knew of others was a lie, but for them it’s not so dramatic and they most likely don’t even remember hurting you. Stop hiding from responsibility and start thinking about the people you love in your life. If you find yourself putting yourself down, neglecting your own needs, or playing down your own accomplishments because you’re worried about hurting someone else’s feelings, there are a few things you need to know. Watch Queue Queue Open yourself to a spiritual practice. The statement is, “Hurt people hurt people.” So, maybe before I wound someone next time, I’ll stop and think if it’s because I’ve been hurt, myself. Take notes. You’re still hurting, you hurt someone else and their hurt may trickle down to someone else. Long Distance/Online Relationship during separation – Is he an narcissist? You, too, might have grown up in a household that wounded you deeply. Others could handle the pain because I had. Psychopathy Psychopaths Don't Care If They Hurt You. Instead of immediately engaging with this behavior, withdraw, reflect, analyze, and take a thoughtful next step. “No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back.” 22. We are not to hurt others physically or emotionally. Babyface I am sorry for being overly negative at times or for insulting you when you didn’t deserve it. So, as a potential remedy for our travel necessity, I have listed 5 alternative ways in which you can relish your traveling desires during this pandemic. You can show others who are hurting that forgiveness, understanding, love, and compassion are possible even after you’ve been hurt. It's not easy to confront someone you hurt, or someone who made you feel bad, but the more you practice, the better you'll feel about yourself. You can’t control others’ reactions, but you can learn to notice, change, and improve your own. If you can’t forgive today, at least set the intention to forgive. xx Unlike other survival shows, there's a bit more to the story than what first meets the eye. Imagine that you’re going to go ahead with it anyway, and notice how you feel. They don't want to hurt you, but many of them will be aggressive. I could avoid arguing, making a scene, or verbally attacking someone who was trying their best to serve others. You can operate by the default of hurting others—or, worse, seek revenge—and mimic the harmful and negative habits you witnessed growing up, or you can actively take different steps and make different choices. Though I run this site, it is not mine. Assess the damage they’ve caused, look at the impact their behavior has had on your life, and determine what you must heal. Posted Jun 03, 2017 Look for triggers and other behavior that provokes you. I care about you more than you know. If you suffer it is because of you, if you feel blissful it is because of you. The best way to manage your own hurt is to think about how you might be hurting others, and admit to it. We wonder why they don’t forgive us, why we didn’t do it differently, why things turned out so poorly. It is a fact of life. Find 9,503 synonyms for hurt and other similar words that you can use instead based on 37 separate contexts from our thesaurus. “No matter how much it hurts now, someday you will look back and realize your struggles changed your life for the better.” – Unknown. If I could reach out to everyone I have hurt because of my struggle, I would say I am sorry for not responding to your messages or canceling plans, especially when you were just trying to let me know you care. It’s okay to think about your needs sometimes. While you can’t take back the past, that doesn’t mean history is going to repeat itself. If you aren't convinced yet, allow me to provide you with a list of further persuasion. We’re all walking around hurting one another. Notice your immediate reaction when people treat you badly, disrespect you, or lash out against you. “I wish I could give you my pain just for one moment. 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